Are you Presencing right now?

 

During my coaching call this week, Michelle and I delved into what it really means to be in the state of Presencing.  I told Michelle that this week's assignment allowed me gain more insight into this act of being that I did not previously have.  Not only did my 15 minute meditation show me things I have never seen before, I was also able to be more mindful in conversations.   


I attempted to put presencing into practice by engaging in a conversation with someone who is a very close friend of mine who I knew about 25 years ago.  We just reconnected last year on social media and have been catching up ever since.  What we have found is that our lives are VERY similar even though we have gone down completely different paths.  Some of the things we have discovered about each other are very personal in regards to a difficult topic. Our meetings remind me of the Circle of Seven women.  In our last conversation together, I paid full attention to what she was saying without judgment and unconditional love.  As others might want to jump in and say “Oh yeah, I had a similar experience...blah, blah, blah....”, my focus remained on what she was saying and its meaning.  I was attentive to her nonverbal cues.  I was mindful that we were connecting to our authentic selves.  This connection of Presencing came from sharing similar experiences and deep listening. 


In the midst of our conversation (and in past conversations), I found that it brought forth our true inner natures, ones that are kind and good.  I made a discovery about our future that we will always be connected through these experiences.   When we talk, the quality of our conversations are at a high level because we have awareness.  We've been out of touch for so many years and have so much to say to each other but we try to focus on only a few important things at one “meeting” over coffee so that it is not overwhelming.  (We often say we wish we had a full 24 hours together because we have so much ground to cover)  Further, when I say our conversations are of high quality, I mean that they convey a deeper meaning and include empathic listening.  There is a synergy as we converse. 

 

Finally, I believe that our dialogue helped her reach a higher potential because it made her more aware of her future actions.  As well, we have established a code of conduct in conversations that will effect  our future conversations. Finally, I think we learn just as much about ourselves as we do each other.  This "expanded sense of self" allows us to emerge into our future selves.